Things I have Learned



Things we have learned through life are important to us all. I would like to share some of the most important things that I have learned in my life. I never look back and think: I wish this thing never happened to me. I tend more to think: I turned out to be the person I am today, possibly because of where I have been.

  • Never leave, hang up the phone, or say goodnight without saying, “I love you.” even if you are pissed off, because you never know if you will ever get the chance to say that again to the ones you really love.
  • Wake up with a smile on your face and goodness in your heart; or at least after your first cup of coffee, because you never know what the day has to offer or where it may lead you.
  • Always be prepared for any possibility because anything could happen and you may need to talk your way in to something or get yourself out of something.
  • Make sure that you see the good in others, even when it is difficult to find.
  • Don’t live in fear or make decisions out of fear. It will never turn out to be where you wanted to land and living in fear is just not a way to live. Remember as my friend  Bonnie always said,” It’s just a thing!” “It” doesn’t have power over you.
  • “I can get through anything” that life throws me. I learned this at a very young age. When I am in a bad way or having a hard time, I chant this to myself.
  • Don’t worry about things to come they are coming, whether you want them to or not, and you will not be prepared if you are busy worrying. It just doesn’t change anything except  how stressed you are and for me that could mean the difference between having a seizure or not.
  • When life gives you, lemons make lemon-aide and sell it on the street in front of your house.
  • Time waits for no one so don’t waste it.
  • Be patient with people you never know what they are dealing with.
  • Be compassionate and have empathy but there is no need to carry everyone else’s troubles on your shoulders just do what you can  to help, even if it’s just a hug.
  • Your own History is like a dusty shelf, you may want to look at it, examine it, learn from it, and then clean the dam thing off. (Mom would be proud, lol)
  • Ride your bike it keeps you healthy and strong and the scenery is beautiful.
  • Laugh more but never forget it is all right to cry. Crying doesn’t mean you are weak it just gives you stuffy head.
  • You can never get all of what you lost back but it sure is worth trying and in the process you’ll find new things that you do and like better.
  • Never underestimate the abilities of others.
  • Get rid of your anguish it only holds you back in life.
  • Tell people the truth and don’t humor them because it’s easier.
  • Be loyal to those you love even though they may not always treat you the same.
  • If you have a poor relationship with someone remember someone has to make the first move to fix it. Try to be the first before you find you have nothing to talk to them about.
  • Always say you’re sorry when you realize you’re wrong.
  • Struggle makes you strong but it sure isn’t fun.
  • Bad things happen to good people but that doesn’t have to make you a person who doesn’t live well and love life.
  • Stand up for those who can’t do it for themselves.
  • If you are like me and rarely ask for help, let someone help you. It is good for you to ask and good for them to be able to give. (I work on this all the time not an easy one for me).
  • Last but never least, taking the shortcut may not be quickest way to get from one place to another.


Live Life so you never have to say," I should have..." I have lived like this, because at age 9, I was brutally beaten while walking to school and acquired a head injury with a seizure disorder and a lifetime of recovery. I live in spite of what everyone believed I would become. You wouldn't know any of this if you saw me or spoke to me. we are some of the many anonymous people living with disabilities in the world. I am a writer and an avid observer of the human condition and I have found that people with TBI are some of the most misunderstood and under funded groups of people with disabilities, I want to change that. I have advocated for people's rights for most of my life years in the human service field and I'm trying to make a difference through education. I hope to inspire people to live well against all odds and the status quo. Be Unique and be who you are and not who others want you to be. Be FREE!
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